Posted on March 28th 2023

The old saying, “Children don’t do what we say, they do what we do” is never more true when we look in the direction of healing. Too often as parents or partners we want to hand down “Life Lessons” or tell our spouses and children what they “should or shouldn’t do” in their lives to try to protect them or direct them. Do they listen? Usually not. But magic happens when we start traveling the path of our own inner healing. We settle down, we get more quiet and we start to know what is working for us. We learn to pause before giving out our opinions freely or handing down life lessons. We take a moment before saying anything to anyone and ask ourselves three important questions.

1. Does this need to be said?
2. Does this need to be said right now?
3. Does this need to be said by me?

Usually the answer is no to at least one of these questions. Then our children see us “dwelling” in a new way of “being” and that is what our loved ones respond to! Then they start to change along with us. This doesn’t happen overnight. It takes “doing the right things, for the right reasons, for a long time” to effect these changes. But when you first see and feel this ripple effect, you will see and feel the true power it has to make real changes in your life and in the lives of those you love.